Positive constructive critisism

In Acro Yoga today Lux was explaining how to give feedback to your partner if they were doing somthing that was uncomfortable to you in any way. He said rather than saying "Your foot is hurting me!" you could say "If you moved your foot closer to my shoulder, that would make me alot more comfortable in this position". So rather than stating what they are doing WRONG, state what they CAN do to make it "right" or make it better. The same principle goes for uncomfortable, or emotionally stiring situations in relationships and in Parenting. If your loved one/friend/child is doing somthing that is bothering you or making you uncomfortable or hurt in any way tell them how it is making you feel and then what they can do to make it better- this way they can learn in a positive way and not feel the need to put up a defense. By "defense", I mean feeling like they have to reACT rather than respond. For example- when flying in acro yoga, you are in an uncomfortable position and you say "OW, your foot is hurting my shoulder" the base may react by moving his foot away quickly thus either hurting you more, making you wobble or just making it uncomfortable. But by saying "if you move it a little to the right that would make me alot more comfortable on my shoulder" then the base can respond in a way that is gentle and effective and JUST what you need, because you were CLEAR on what you needed. So in relationships, be clear with what you need in order to feel nurtured, comfortable, safe and loved and state that. If your partner or friend hears what you need and is able to give that to you, they will, and if they arent able to give it to you now you know you did your best to get that thing, are aware you cant get it from that particular relationship and are now able to seek that elsewhere (hopfully from inside yourself).